Monday, June 24, 2024

The Bond of Friendship

 By: Joanne Viola


We used to talk every single day. We were young mothers raising our daughters and we needed the support of one another.

The conversations were real and raw; we bared it all to one another through laughter and tears. Then it was all covered in prayer together before we hung up for the night.

Years have passed and we have changed much, and life has transitioned us to new and different places. But the bond has remained the same.

One morning last week, I just needed to hear her voice. To know she was alright and doing well. To laugh, to cry, and to know exactly for what I would be praying.

We need friendships. People we know will be with us through thick and thin. Those we know we can depend on, and who can depend on us.

We need to take confidentiality serious too. Those who share their deepest needs and hurts must know the only one we will share it with is God.

“Open not thine heart to every man, but deal with one who is wise and feareth God.

 Let thy company be the humble and the simple, the devout and the gentle, and let thy discourse be concerning things which edify.

 We must love all men, but not make close companions of all.”

 (The Imitation of Christ by Thomas A. Kempis, The First Book, page 10)

In my younger days, a wise pastor once advised me to share my heart with no more than five people. Friends and acquaintances can be plentiful but those I permit into my heart should be few.

“Walk with the wise and become wise, associate with fools and get in trouble.”
(Proverbs 13:20, NLT)

In this day we are living, wisdom is needed in greater measure as we share our thoughts and opinions. May we be agents of peace, not letting others incite us to also become angry and rude.

Friendships hold tremendous power.

Under the influence of a wise mentor, teacher, parent, or coach, we will flourish and thrive as character is shaped and molded with their guidance. Let’s choose friendships wisely so that we grow in the fruit of Your Spirit and not in the traits of others.

“It [love] does not rejoice about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out.
Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful,
and endures through every circumstance.”

(1 Corinthians 13:6-7, NLT)


Think of your closest friendships. What can you do to nurture and maintain them?


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  1. Hi Joanne, this is such a lovely post. As I look back I see how God has placed precious women in my path. People who could be exactly what I needed in the moment, who could encourage me and help me, when I needed it most. Its one of the reasons I love to blog. I hope to be an encourager, a godly friend to other women, and isn't it amazing how in turn we get encouraged right back?
    God bless

  2. Tracy, it is exactly the reason I began blogging as well. The connection, friendships, and encouragement are truly a blessing. May the Lord bless you in your writing and friendships! I'm grateful God crossed our paths!


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