Monday, September 24, 2018

How To Keep Your Marriage Alive While Raising Children

By: Jenifer Metzger

Children are a heritage from the Lord,
offspring a reward from Him.
Like arrows in the hands of a warrior
are children born in one’s youth.
Blessed is the man
whose quiver is full of them.
They will not be put to shame
when they contend with their opponents in court.
Psalm 127:3-5

Children are a beautiful gift from God. When God blesses us with children, it is nothing short of a miracle. David tells us in Psalm 127 that “children are a heritage of the Lord” and “blessed is the man whose quiver is full.” Yes, children are certainly a blessing.

The thing many couples fail to remember is that those children God blesses us with will one day grow up and leave. They will have lives and families of their own. This is the way it is meant to be; we raise our children to grow up and leave.

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While we are still raising our little blessings, we are busy changing diapers, running them to soccer and ballet, helping them memorize their Sunday School memory verse, teaching them to read, teaching them to drive, and all those busy yet fun things that go with raising children. So busy, in fact, that we forget about each other.

When that fateful day comes and our children are grown and leave our home, will we look across the room at our spouse and even recognize them anymore? Will we know what they like and dislike? Will we know what makes them tick? Will we remember why we fell in love with them in the first place?

You might think that you just don’t have the time, energy, or money to devote to dating your spouse. Let’s turn that around for a moment. Do you have the time, energy, and money for things important to you such as a hobby, sport, or even a tv show? We make time for those things we love, we make sure there is enough money for what we want, and we do what we love no matter how much energy we have or don’t have. Yet we fail to do the same for our marriage. This is an area where we need to simply draw the line. We need to make the plan and be intentional.

Dating your mate doesn’t have to look like dinner at a five-star restaurant. However, if that is your thing and your budget allows, go for it! Dating your mate can look like pizza and a movie, bowling and nachos, an ice cream cone and a walk around the park, or it can even look like putting the kids to bed early to have a candle lit dinner on the back porch. Whatever it is, just do it.

While dating is vital in marriage, it isn’t the only way to keep the connection alive. Have fun conversations, have deep conversations, take trips down memory lane, pray together, and flirt with each other. Make your marriage a priority now so that when the nest is empty, there is still a marriage to be had.

Discussion questions:
1. How do you and your husband keep your physical connection through the years of raising your children?
2. How do you and your husband keep your emotional connection through the years of raising your children?

Sunday, September 23, 2018

Let peace rule...

LET -allow to, permit to, give permission to, give leave to, authorize to, sanction to, grant the right to, license to, empower to, enable to- the peace and soul harmony which comes from Christ rule continually in your heart.

I don't know anyone who doesn't want more peace within. God wants us to allow His peace to rule in our mind and hearts. He wants His peace to be allowed to act as an umpire within us. In other words, He wants His peace to be allowed to call the balls and strikes in our thoughts and the desires and affections of our heart. But the big question is...

Thankfully, God shows us the how in the verses preceding and following His instruction to let His peace rule in us.

Keep your focus on things above not on things of earth. Colossians 3:2
When our thoughts are consumed with our circumstances and problems we are filled with turmoil instead of peace. When we shift our focus onto God Who is ruling and reigning on the throne of heaven and over all creation, we begin to trust that He is well able to handle everything that concerns us and we begin to experience His peace.

Let go of shame and guilt. Colossians 3:3
When we live in fear, guilt and shame it's impossible to live in peace. Colossians 3:3 tells us that our life is hidden in Christ. When you receive Christ as the Ruler and Savior of your life, He takes your sinfulness and wraps you up in His righteousness. Guilt and shame are no longer your portion, peace is!

Deal with sin. Colossians 3:6
Living in deliberate disobedience to God's word and ways is a peace killer. Soul harmony comes when we live a life of repentance and submission to God-when we trust that His ways are best for us.

Let go of offenses, anger and bitterness. Forgive. Colossians 3:8 and 13
Offense, anger, bitterness and unforgiveness are like poison to your inner being. It is impossible for these things and peace to coexist. Choose to forgive and to let go of anger and offense and bitterness. When negative emotions and thoughts pop back up, as they inevitably will, say aloud to remind yourself and the enemy of your soul, "I chose to forgive that." Then consistently pray for God to heal your wounded emotions. There's also no shame in seeking good biblical counsel if you need some extra help and support.

Be honest. Colossians 3:9
You've heard the saying, "Oh what a tangled web we weave when first we practice to deceive." Being honest and transparent and real is one of the keys to peace and freedom.

Cooperate with God in the renewal of your mind. Colossians 3:10
As we yield and cooperate with God's Spirit and Word, our mind is continually being renewed and transformed. Staying stuck in old ways of thinking, reacting and responding definitely hinders peace. Letting God's Word wash our mind and His Spirit transform our old mindsets is liberating!

Let go of prejudice. Colossians 3:11
Isn't it amazing that God sees prejudice as a peace stealer? God wants us to see everyone through His eyes. That doesn't always come naturally or easy, but it's something that we can ask for His help to do.

Realize how beloved you are by God and let His love flow through you to others. Colossians 3:12
When we realize that we are God's chosen and beloved one, then it's easier to love others, and to be tenderhearted, merciful, gentle and kind to them. When we are confident in God's love, peace can fill our hearts which enables peace to impact our relationships.

Let God's Word dwell richly in your heart and mind. Colossians 3:15
The Word of God is the tool God uses to transform us. The more His Word fills up our mind and heart, the more it crowds out all of the negative thoughts and emotions that prevent peace from ruling within.

I want to live a life ruled by God's peace. How about you?

still following, 

Friday, September 21, 2018

How to Slow Down and Seek Peace

In a season of hurry and hustle, it’s hard to slow down and seek peace.
But God called me to do that last year, and maybe he’s calling you to do that in your current season.
In the spring of 2017, I was frustrated with a discouraging situation. I had tried so very hard to keep everything going, and it was falling apart despite my hard-working efforts.
When I received an opportunity to escape the situation, I thought it looked like a perfect offering of freedom. The beauty of that opportunity caused me to hurry and hustle to apply for it.
After rounds of interviews, I felt oh-so-close to a peaceful answer. But one late afternoon, the opportunity door closed firmly in my face.
Instead of crying in front of my kids before I cooked supper, I shut myself in my car and let the tears flow. I said out loud to God, "I know YOU know why this happened, and even though I don't understand, I'm trusting You."

Slow Down

Later that week, I watched a teaching video by Shauna Niequist, author of Present Over Perfect. Shauna boldly spoke about her quest to be responsible, efficient, capable, deadline-oriented, and "on" all the time. She talked about how that quest sucked the life out of her and damaged her family relationships.

The Holy Spirit tapped me on the shoulder and said, "Are you listening?" It was as if God and I were having a private conversation, even though Shauna's message recorded a year before it was playing on a computer screen in front of my eyes.

She talked about feeling more like a soldier than a daughter.

She talked about feeling more like a valuable player than a treasured child.

She said, "If I exhausted myself often enough, at least it proved my worth."

Can you relate? Do you feel valued only when you produce "enough," like I do?

The problem is, enough never comes. At least in this hurry and hustle paced world that never stops demanding more from us.

Seek Peace

Shauna went on sabbatical. She started basking in times of silence, where she found God's unconditional love in abundance. She learned a well-tended soul is more important than a quickly-produced product.

I thought about the past few years, when I've pushed myself to the limit to be productive yet ended up burnt out and unhappy.

I thought about the recent "no" and realized God was protecting me from falling right back into the fast-paced, soul-draining trap I've been in.
Now, with the benefit of more hindsight, I can see the protection even more clearly.

God created me to live a well-cultivated life with regular rhythms of work, play, rest and worship. That’s the life he designed for you too, friend. We weren’t meant to hurry and hustle all the time.

Peace Instead of Hurry and Hustle

There's nothing wrong with being super-productive for a season, like at harvest time. But when season after season is paced like harvest, I don't have any time to let the ground rest, plant new seeds, and marvel at new growth and quiet beauty.

So the new path I'm taking looks like this: I'm not seeking ANYTHING that destroys the heartbeat-paced, durable, and beautiful life I'm created to live.

After the no in 2017, I trusted God to lead me on a more peaceful path. Jesus never hurried, and he’s teaching me to slow down. I was putting the pressure to hurry and hustle on myself. 

Now I'm walking a peaceful path with confidence in God, even though I still don't know where it leads. It feels so much better than how I was hurrying and hustling in the past, and I’m enjoying the slower pace. Peace-filled and more in-step with Jesus’ pace.

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Blessings and God's peace to you,

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Reflection questions:

1. Look at your schedule. What is tied to hurry and hustle that you can eliminate?

2. What practical step can you take today to slow down and seek God's peace?

Thursday, September 20, 2018

He is our Defender!

 By Debi Baker

I was at a conference earlier this week and heard this song for the very first time.  It's so powerful.  Please listen below:

Have a wonderful day,

Wednesday, September 19, 2018

Thirsty Soul

By: Jenifer Metzger

We've all experienced thirst. After a workout or on a hot day we are desperate for water. One long drink of cool water feels like a mighty rushing waterfall that quenches our deep thirst. It feels good. It fills us.

Have we experienced that with God? Are we desperate for Him? Do we let Him come over us like a mighty rushing waterfall to quench our soul?

One thing about water is we rarely take just a sip. Though a sip is good and can help us feel satisfied to a point, we normally take a good long drink. Then a little later, we take another good long drink. And then again, and again. Our thirst is satisfied but we have the need to keep going back regularly. Our thirst continues. One small sip a day is not going to satisfy us. We keep drinking.

As the deer pants for streams of water,
so my soul pants for You, my God.
Psalm 42: 1

The same is with God. We experience Him, but once isn't enough. We have to keep going back. Our soul needs more than a sip, our soul is desperately thirsty for Him continually. A sip is okay, but we need to regularly take a good long drink and then we need to keep going back for more.

Our soul stays thirsty and we need to continually drink.


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