Monday, March 19, 2018

Why Is Her Grass Greener

By: Jenifer Metzger

I love grass. I know those three words grouped together sound silly, but they are true. I love the look of plush, bright green grass. In the spring when things begin to turn green, I get giddy with excitement. However, our lawn hasn't been plush nor has it been bright green. We've struggled with our lawn for a couple of years now, so when we drive around and I see these full green lawns, I think, Ugh! Why can't our lawn look like that? I want their beautiful grass. My husband always tells me the same thing. "They water and fertilize it." We've slacked on the watering and fertilizing these years, which has caused our not so pretty grass. The heat of the sun in the summer months and the lack of rain will quickly kill a lawn. In order for it to look nice, we must water and fertilize it.

What about in our life? We see a co-worker accepting a large bouquet of roses from the delivery man or a friend posting to Facebook about her big date night and we think why can't my marriage be like that. We see a husband opening the car door for his wife or a couple walking hand in hand and we wonder why can't we be like that. We've been beat down by this marriage thing. It's harder than we ever imagined. This meshing of two lives is taking a toll and you begin to wonder if it's worth it. You are your husband are constantly bickering with one another and days may pass without a single physical connection. Just like the hot sun and lack of rain will kill a lawn not watered and fertilized, the pressures of life will kill a marriage that has not been watered and fertilized.

In order to get our lawn greener and more full for summer, we had to begin in the dark winter months. Then, we must water and fertilize it regularly. In order to make our marriage work, in order to see a positive change, we must water and fertilize it regularly, especially in the dark times. Invest in your marriage friends. Don't leave it to happenstance. Greener grass has been watered and fertilized. A happy marriage has been watered and fertilized.

Sunday, March 18, 2018

Chased by goodness and mercy...

Psalm 23 is one of those chapters in the Bible that most everyone has heard at some time or another. Perhaps you've heard the saying, "familiarity breeds contempt"? While our familiarity with this Psalm may not breed contempt it may blind us to some of its powerful truths.

"Surely goodness and mercy shall follow me all the days of my life and I will dwell in the house of the Lord forever" is the most common way we've all heard verse six of Psalm 23.  Recent translations more correctly translate the word follow as pursue.  The Hebrew word used there is "radaph".  It means to pursue, run after,  or to chase. Writer Ann Voskamp says that God hunts us down to show us His goodness and mercy.  WoW!  Those are much more aggressive words than the word follow.  God is serious about making sure His goodness and mercy get to us, reach us, and overtake us. God loves us so much that He is chasing us down with His goodness and mercy. What hope, comfort and encouragement that should give us.

still following,

Wednesday, March 14, 2018

Respect is Essential


Emily Miller

It is a concept that we try to practice, yet struggle with doing so.

Everyone in our lives wants to be shown respect. They want to be told that their values, opinions, and ideas matter.

However, one of the ways in which I believe we fail in this aspect is by the fact that we can have the tendency, sometimes without meaning to, to use words that hurt the people we care about in our lives.

Sometimes, out of anger, we will chose words that we know will hurt the other person. Usually you regret these words later, if not the moment they come out of your mouth. This is because the devil LOVES it when he can wreak havocand conflict in our very own homes.

It is like it says in the Bible. The tongue can be the hardest part of the Body to control that we have to constantly keep in check.

Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.
-Ephesians 4:29

We all want to strive to be Godly women who uplift and encourage each other. That may mean being in constant prayer when you do come into conflict with someone that it can be used as a healthy (yes, conflict is healthy) form of communication, and not a tool to tear each other down. 



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Monday, March 12, 2018

I Need A Do Over

By: Jenifer Metzger

As a mom and children's pastor, I constantly hear kids say the words, "I need a do over." Whether they are playing a game or doing a craft, they mess up. All they want is another chance to start over. They know that if they can just begin again, things will be better.

Have you ever felt that way? Your day just isn't going as you hoped or planned and you just need a do over. The truth is, we've all felt that way at some point in life. Many of us have felt that way already today. We just want to start fresh.

Because of the Lord’s faithful love we do not perish, for His mercies never end.
They are new every morning; great is your faithfulness!
Lamentations 3:22-23

The good news is we can have a fresh start! We don't even have to wait until morning! You can start over, even right this moment. Here are a few ways to have a do over.


Close your eyes. Take a few deep cleansing breathes. When I get busy or stressed out, it feels as if I stop breathing. I know that is not the truth, I obviously continue to breathe. But it feels as if I stop, like maybe I am holding my breath. In those moments I have to close my eyes and remind myself to breathe.


Nothing changes the attitude and atmosphere faster than worship. Put on worship music and let it move you. Maybe you need some slow music like Reckless Love or Tremble. Or maybe you need something upbeat like Worth More Than Gold or Out of the Dark. Whatever it is, turn it up and worship!

Give yourself a time out.

When our kids act up we put them in time out. It's a time, just a couple of minutes, to let them refocus and start over. Maybe you need a time out. Sit at the table or in your favorite chair or on your bed, close your eyes, and just sit there for a couple of minutes. Refocus and start over.


Nothing, absolutely nothing, will give you a fresh start better than prayer. When we pray, we are aligning ourselves with God. When we are properly aligned, we have a beautiful fresh start. Spend a few minutes with the Father. Ask Him to forgive you of any actions, words, or attitudes that were not pleasing, and ask Him to help you start over.

What are other ways you give yourself a do over?

Sunday, March 11, 2018

Valley seasons...

Why is it that sometimes it seems as though winter is twice as long as the other seasons?  There have been years when it felt like spring would never come.  Yet, it inevitably did come.  There's never been a year that winter lasted forever. There's never been a year when spring didn't come.

There are times when a season of waiting on God for an answer to prayer or a season of testing and trial can seem to stretch on forever.  I call them the valley times.  No one chooses or enjoys being in a valley of difficulty but we all will face a valley season at one time or another.

There are two things that have helped me survive the valley seasons in my life.  The first is to keep on walking.  God never intended us to camp out or dwell in the valley. Time after time, God's word talks about us walking though the valley.  It never instructs us to pitch a tent or build a house and dwell there.  When we keep on walking, in spite of how tempting it is to lie down, give up, and quit, we will inevitably one day find ourselves walking right on out of the valley.

The second thing that has helped me to survive, and dare I say even at times to thrive, the valley season is to hold fast to hope. My hope is found in the truth and promises of God's Word.  They are my lifeline. I read them, underline them, memorize them, pray them and remind God and myself what He has promised.  I know that God is reliable, sure and faithful to His Word.  I also know that just as no winter lasts forever, no valley in my life has ever lasted forever.  Sure, some valley times lasted way longer that I would have liked, but eventually every valley season I have been through came to an end. I came out of some of the valley seasons with a few battle scars.  I came out of some of the valleys mourning losses - loss of a loved one, loss of a friendship.  But, I came out.  You see, the enemy would love to keep you living in the valley forever.  He'd love to convince you that you are a victim of the valley.  He wants you to believe that for some reason you are on the bottom of the list of God's kids.  The enemy would love to convince you that you are the Cinderella of God's family but there's no fairy godmother coming to bail you out of your awful circumstances. Remember, that the Bible is a book of opposite thinking than the world's thinking.  The world thinks an easy life is a blessed life.  However, God's family photo gallery is filled with the faces of those who went through the valley and came out victorious.  There isn't a main character in all of God's Word who didn't experience suffering. God included them in His Word for a reason.  He has given them to us as examples.  We, too, can come out on the other side of the valley victorious if we will keep putting one foot in front of the other, keep on walking, and hold on tightly to the hope that God has given us.

still following,