Wednesday, November 25, 2015

Don't Miss the Main Event

By: Shari A. Miller

Tomorrow is my favorite holiday that I look forward to every year.


As I write this, the smell of pumpkin pie is wafting through the air, and members of my family are busy throughout the house making preparations for the special day.

Cleaning and more baking will happen tomorrow in order to make everything just right for the arrival of family and friends.

In years past I've gotten a little too overwhelmed with making sure things were perfect; so much so, that by the time everyone arrived, I was exhausted and didn't enjoy myself at all.

We can see the same thing happening in God's Word as we read the story of Mary and Martha.

As Jesus and his disciples were on their way, he came to a village where a woman named Martha opened her home to him. She had a sister called Mary, who sat at the Lord’s feet listening to what he said. But Martha was distracted by all the preparations that had to be made. She came to him and asked, “Lord, don’t you care that my sister has left me to do the work by myself? Tell her to help me!” “Martha, Martha,” the Lord answered, “you are worried and upset about many things, but few things are needed—or indeed only one. Mary has chosen what is better, and it will not be taken away from her.”
Luke 10:38-42
In this story we can see Martha busy around her home making sure everything was just perfect for Jesus. However, in doing this she was missing out on the "main event." Jesus even tells her to stop focusing on so many things, and focus on what matters most, Him.
As you busy yourself around your home, don't let your "to-do's" get in the way of the center of attention being on Him. It doesn't have to all be perfect, it doesn't have to all get done.
Tomorrow, enjoy the special moments with family and friends as you breath in deep the spirit of the season of thankfulness. Slow down and take time to be grateful for things that matter most in life, with the main important one being the King.

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Tuesday, November 24, 2015

How to Cook a Turkey (and everything else you need to know)

Not sure how to tackle turkey dinner? Here are all the basics to make sure you look the perfect turkey every time.

How to Cook Turkey
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Whether you’re roasting, grilling, or deep-frying a turkey for your next special occasion, we have all the tips and tricks you need to tackle your bird with confidence. There’s no need to be intimidated by the task when you follow Betty’s guide to cooking a succulent, satisfying turkey every time.

Getting Started

While we all know the tryptophan in turkey can make us doze off on the couch after our Thanksgiving feast, something that surprised us about the tasty bird is that it’s actually packed with a lot of essential nutrients.  Aside from being low in fat and high in protein, turkey is also a great source of riboflavin and phosphorous

Many of us are familiar with how to roast turkey, but did you know you can also slow-cook, grill, or deep-fry your bird? We’ll walk you through each method and offer up helpful hints on how to make the most out of your bird. 

What you’ll need:

While nice-to-have cooking tools may vary by preparation, here are some of the essentials you’ll need for any method:

Essentials for any method:

  •  Meat thermometer
  • Aluminum foil
  • Sharpened carving knife/fork
  • Cutting board
Other tools that vary by method:
Depending on whether you’re roasting, grilling, slow cooking or deep-frying, you may need a few other tools.

For Roasting:

  •  Oven-proof meat thermometer
  • Roasting pan with handles
  • Butcher’s string
  • Baster
For Grilling:
  •  Grill
  • Drip pan
For Slow-Cooking:
  •  Slow-Cooker or Crockpot
For Deep-Frying:
  •  Large, 28-30 quart stockpot or turkey fryer
An oven-proof meat thermometer is nice for any method because you can leave it in the turkey while it’s cooking, as opposed to a regular meat thermometer which you’ll have to stick in the bird at intervals in order to determine whether or not it’s done.  This especially comes in handy if you’re roasting your bird in the oven, as opening and closing the oven door repeatedly lets out heat and interrupts your turkey-cooking time. Because cooking times vary, also be sure you’re meat always reaches 165ºF before serving.

If you’ll be roasting your bird, a roasting pan with handles is also a smart idea because of the turkey’s weight. The size of pan you should use depends on the size of your bird, but in general, anything up to a 12 lb turkey can be roasted in a 14 x 10 pan. Larger birds should be roasted in a 16 x 13. 

Other nice-to-have tools for roasting include butcher’s string and a baster. We use butcher’s string to tie the legs of the turkey together—it’s inexpensive and available at most cookware stores. Also, if you’re going to baste your turkey, which helps give the turkey plenty of flavor, you’ll need a baster.

Buying a Turkey

Before you can get to work cooking your turkey, you’ll need to choose from one of the handful of varieties sold in stores. You can purchase fresh or frozen, depending on when you’ll be serving the turkey. A fresh turkey can be kept in the refrigerator for one to two days before serving, so it’s your best bet if you’re planning on preparing it soon. Turkeys can be frozen in the freezer for up to 12 months. 

Wondering how much turkey to buy for your guests? You can figure this out by multiplying the number of guests by one pound of uncooked, whole turkey per person. This equation gives you enough for the table as well as a few leftovers, which are especially nice on Thanksgiving. Turkeys can range in size anywhere from eight to 24 pounds.

Which Type of Turkey is Right for You?

There are many types of turkeys to choose from, and the kind you should select depends on the occasion and your personal preferences. 

If a turkey is free-range, it means the bird has been given access to the outdoors. Free-range turkeys are generally moist and have a robust turkey flavor, but can be a bit more expensive than other options. 

Organic and Natural
When a turkey is labeled as organic, it means it’s free of hormones and antibiotics. Organic turkeys may be slightly more expensive, but they often have a delicious, substantial flavor.  If a turkey is labeled as natural, it means it is free from preservatives and artificial ingredients, and can only be “minimally processed.” Again, these turkeys might be slightly more expensive, but are, in general, more flavorful. 

For a turkey to be labeled as kosher, it needs to be processed in accordance with Jewish dietary law under rabbinical supervision. Kosher turkeys are soaked and salted, then triple rinsed. For this reason, they typically don’t require additional brining. 

Wondering what a heritage turkey is? If a turkey is labeled as heritage, it means it comes from some of the first domesticated turkeys farmed by the English settlers. There are two main heritage breeds: American Bronze and Bourbon Red, which both have a bit more dark meat than other types of turkeys. Heritage turkeys are some of the best birds to slow-cook because of their moist, slightly chewy texture. They are substantially more expensive than other turkeys. 

A self-basting turkey is generally less expensive than organic or natural turkeys. It has been filled with ingredients like salt, butter, or chicken fat to make it more flavorful and moist—hence, there’s no need to baste it. In general, these turkeys produce juicier meat than other varieties. 

Conventional turkeys will be less expensive than organic turkeys, but may have added hormones or antibiotics, depending on where they come from. If you like, talk to your butcher about what types of turkey he recommends for the cooking method and meal you’re planning.

How to Store Your Uncooked Turkey
So you’ve purchased the turkey, you’ve selected your cooking method and have a killer recipe to boot…now what? If you want to keep your turkey frozen, remember that it can be stored in the freezer for up to 12 months. But if you’re making it soon, a fresh, whole turkey should only be refrigerated for up to 1 to 2 days of purchase. Always keep the turkey in its packaging from the store; the wrapping it comes in is designed to keep bacteria out and freshness in. Taking off the packaging may expose your bird to bacteria. 

How to Prepare your Turkey Before Cooking
If your turkey has been in the freezer, you’ll need to thaw it. Thawing a turkey is easy, and can be done in three different ways: 

  •  In the refrigerator, using our thawing chart for guidelines on how long it will take based on size.
  • In the microwave—if your turkey is tiny enough! Just check your owner’s manual for instructions on minutes per pound and be sure to unwrap turkey before doing so.
  • With cold water that completely covers the bird. To do this, place turkey in plastic bag in cold water, submerging completely. Change water every 30 minutes to ensure water is cold. You can plan for 30 minutes of defrosting per pound of bird. 
Once thawed, do the following:
  •  Remove the wrapper and paper giblet packets containing the gizzard, heart, and neck. These are tucked inside the neck and end cavities—be sure to check both.
  • Rinse the turkey well after removing the giblets and pat dry. Giblets can be rinsed and cooked in a saucepan of boiling water and simmered during turkey roasting time. Use the rich broth for delicious gravy, like our Foolproof Turkey Gravy.

How to Stuff and Truss a Turkey
If you’re making a Thanksgiving turkey, you may want to stuff your bird before cooking it. Stuffing that’s prepared inside the turkey becomes extra moist and flavorful, although it does mean additional cooking time. If you need to save time to prepare your feast, make stuffing outside of the bird instead. This is sometimes called “dressing.” Our five-star Slow-Cooker Chorizo, Pecan and Cheddar Stuffing is one of our favorite outside-of-the-bird recipes.

If you’re committed to stuffing your turkey, however, here are a few things to consider:

  •  All stuffing ingredients should be cooked before they are placed inside the turkey, including the meat and vegetables.
  • In general, you’ll use about ½ to ¾ cups of stuffing per pound of turkey to stuff both the neck and body.
  • Do not stuff your bird the night before; letting stuffing sit inside it that long can let bacteria grow: it’s best to stuff the bird right before roasting.
  • Just like the turkey, the stuffing needs to reach a safe temperature of 165ºF before serving. If the turkey is done before the stuffing, remove the stuffing and continue to cook in a baking dish.
Trussing your turkey simply means tying it into a compact shape. Some people believe this helps the turkey cook more evenly. We like to use twine or butcher’s string to do this, especially when roasting, but trussing is not a necessary step if you don’t have time. 

How to Brine a Turkey
Brining a turkey before cooking it adds plenty of flavor and makes for extra-tender meat. There are two ways to brine a turkey: using a wet brine or with a dry brine. While it does require additional prep time—up to 24 hours for the brine to soak in—we suggest giving a brine a try if you have the time and want more flavorful, tender meat.  

Different Ways to Cook a Turkey
There are numerous ways to cook your turkey and each produces a slightly different texture and flavor. Discover which method is right for you:

roast turkey

roast turkey
Whether for your Thanksgiving feast or any other special occasion, roasted turkey makes for a delicious, succulent meal. As mentioned earlier, we recommend a roasting pan for this task. Try our traditional Roast Turkey for a failsafe recipe that works for any occasion, or our zesty Roast Turkey with Fresh Thyme Rub and Maple Glaze for a new take on the classic.  


Skip the oven with this must-try method that results in exceptionally juicy meat and perfectly crispy skin. You’ll need a turkey fryer or very large stockpot for this, typically one that is 28 to 30 quarts. Try our Southern-Style Deep-Fried Turkey for inspiration.

lemon herb grilled turkey
Grilling your turkey is a sure-fire way to make moist and juicy meat. You’ll need a gas or charcoal grill and a drip pan for this method. Before grilling, you can rub the cavity of the turkey with salt and pepper and whatever ingredients your favorite recipe calls for. One of our favorite grilled turkey recipes is our Lemon-Herb Grilled Turkey! It’s simple enough to make for an elegant summer meal yet impressive enough to serve for your Thanksgiving feast. 

slow cooked turkey dinner
We’re big fans of the set it and forget it method, especially with turkey! Plus, slow-cooked turkey is extra flavorful and tender. This Slow-Cooked Turkey Dinner requires just 15 minutes of prep and is a must-try.

Cooking Turkey FAQ
While your bird’s busy cooking, here are a few answers to common last-minute concerns:

  • Wondering how long to cook a turkey? Cooking times vary by method and weight, although stuffed turkeys will take noticeably longer to cook than unstuffed turkeys. For roasting, see our roasting chart; for other methods, be sure to check your recipe.
  • If you’re going to baste your turkey to make it extra-moist and flavorful, you’ll want to do so every 30 minutes, using the juices from the pan to evenly baste your bird. 
  • Wondering what to do with turkey drippings? They can be used for must-make gravy recipes like our Foolproof Turkey Gravy.

How to Carve a Turkey 
Ready to serve? Carve your turkey on a stable cutting board with a sharp carving knife and a meat fork with two tines. Carving a turkey is easier if you allow it to stand for 15 to 20 minutes before cutting.

Follow these easy steps for a beautiful presentation:

  • Place turkey breast-side up. Remove any ties or skewers. Pull the leg away from the body until the thigh bone pops out. Cut through joint.
carving a turkey

  • Slice along the breast bone to remove breast meat. Cut off the wings.
slicing breast bone of turkey

  • Separate the thigh from the drumstick. Slice pieces off of the bone. 
seperating thigh from drumstick
How to Serve Turkey
We like to slice the breast meat and arrange it on a platter for our guests. It can be helpful to separate the white and dark meat on the platter, as different people have different preferences.
slicing turkey on cutting board
Here are some of our favorite sides to serve with turkey, from Thanksgiving standbys to simple salads and rice dishes:

Monday, November 23, 2015

3 Keys To Being A Good Listener

By: Jenifer Metzger

We all know that one of the keys to marriage is communication. Though we think communication is talking with our mate, it is actually two fold. Talking is very important, but just as important is listening.

How can we be a good listener to our husband? The next time your husband speaks to you, try these tips:

  1. Stop! Whatever you are doing, stop. While we women pride ourselves on being multi-taskers, the truth is, it is hard to truly give undivided attention to our husband when we are doing something else at the same time. Pause what you are doing so that you can pay attention to him. This lets him know that you value him as a person and you value what he is saying to you. If whatever you are doing absolutely cannot wait, respectfully ask your husband if he could please give a few minutes to finish your task so that you give him your full attention.
  2. Look! Give your husband eye contact. Look at his eyes when he is speaking. It is hard to know if someone is truly listening to you if they are looking at the tv, down at their cell phone or across the room. Think about when you are speaking to someone and they are not looking at you. It makes you feel as they are not fully listening, maybe even makes you feel worthless? Look at his eyes. This lets him know you are paying attention to him and it makes a connection between the two of you,
  3. Listen! Pay close attention to your husband. Whether he is telling you his hopes, dreams and plans, or simply sharing a story from work -even if you have heard it before, pay attention to him. Be intentional about not just hearing him, but truly listening to the words coming out of his mouth and the heart behind them. Nod occasionally. After he speaks, ask him questions if you need to. Even if you've been married many, many years, when you truly listen to your spouse, you can learn so much about them. Listen with your ears and your heart.
What are other ways you can be a good listener to your husband?

Sunday, November 22, 2015

A sacrifice of thanksgiving...

by Elizabeth Stewart

I call them key turning points, small decisions to obey that radically shift something.  It was our Job season.  We had lost our beautiful newly built church building in an ugly denominational squabble.  Friends we had for years were lost as we made a decision to separate from that denomination, and in their minds, separate from them.  Loss and hurt and pain seemed to blanket every area of our life, spiritually, emotionally  relationally, financially.  

It was Christmas time, and our faithful congregation had hung together through the loss of our building, and moved with us into a rented space in a dark and gloomy strip mall in the bad part of town.  There weren't enough twinkly lights or tinsel to make that little sanctuary look appealing.  My soul felt as dark and gloomy as our surroundings.

Towards the end of that particular Sunday morning, over the sound system my husband had chosen to have Whitney Houston's version of Joy to the World, the one from the movie The Preacher's Wife, played.  I felt no joy, only deep sorrow and mourning for all that we had been going through.  However, in my spirit I felt the urging of God's Holy Spirit telling me to worship, to give thanks, and to dance.  Though we come from a belief system where none of those acts were considered unusual, no one else was doing it at the time and I certainly did not emotionally feel like doing it.  But, something in my spirit rose up and teamed together with my will and grabbed my emotions by the nape of the neck and I began to worship, give thanks and dance.  When I obeyed, when I gave a sacrifice of praise and thanksgiving, my garments of heaviness fell off, and a new sense of peace and joy flooded over me.  That experience marked me forever.

I know many of you are going through difficult times and losses far greater than mine.  When God asks us to give a sacrifice of praise and thanksgiving, I don't believe it's because of any need on His part.  God doesn't need our worship to somehow make Himself bigger or better.  He is already complete perfection in all that He is and all that He does.  I think He knows that we need to praise and give thanks for what it does for us, for how it puts the things of this world in perspective in comparison to His greatness and all that eternity holds in store for us.  I think He knows that praise and thanksgiving break chains and evict the enemy.  The way you praise and give thanks may look different on the outside than what God had me do on that long ago Sunday, but let me urge you to at least open your mouth and express yourself aloud.  The enemy is not omniscient and cannot read your mind, but he can hear your words.  Let your spirit and will team up against your unruly emotions and grab them by the nape of the neck, then open up your mouth and speak, shout, or sing and give a sacrifice of praise and thanksgiving.  I believe this makes the enemy quake in his boots and makes heaven rejoice and the angel armies get busy fighting on your behalf.  

still following,

Saturday, November 21, 2015

God is For Me

by Robin McKay

God knows you.  He engraved your name on His hands and keeps your tears in a bottle (Isa 49:16; Psalm 56:8).

God knows you.  And He is near you!  How far is the shepherd from the sheep? (John 10:14)  The branch from the vine? (John 15:5)  That’s how far God is from you.  He is near. 

How differently would we live if we chose to believe these four words: “God is for me” (Psalm 56:9)

His Kingdom needs you.  The poor need you; the lonely need you; the church needs you...the cause of God needs you.  You are part of “the overall purpose He is working out in everything and everyone” (Eph. 1:11 MSG). 

The Kingdom needs you to discover and deploy your unique skill.  Use it to make much out of God.  

Get the word out. 


God is with us; we are not alone!