Monday, July 28, 2014

Marriage Fruits of the Spirit: GENTLENESS

By: Jenifer Metzger

Today week continue the Fruits of the Spirit in Marriage series. To read the previous week's, click on lovejoypeace, patience, kindness, goodness and faithfulness.

Today's fruit is gentleness.

But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, 
kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control.
Galatians 5:22-23

#Fruit of the #Spirit in #marriage - week 8 #gentleness

Gentleness and kindness go hand in hand. It's hard to be kind if we are not gentle and it's hard to be gentle when we are unkind. As much as the two go hand in hand, we also know that sometimes it is flat out hard to be gentle.

There are times gentleness drips from our soul, sometimes it is more forced and sometimes gentleness isn't even in the same zip code. But God calls us to be gentle. To act gentle and to speak gentle.

A gentle answer turns away wrath
but a harsh word stirs up anger.
Proverbs 15:1

When your husband answers you rough or unkind, reply in a gentle way. When disagreement comes, speak gently. No matter what is going on or what is being said, keep your voice, attitude and touch gentle.

Sometimes we are gentle yet others are still angry or harsh toward us. Your gentleness might not instantly make the other person turn gentle, it may take some time. But keep answering gently and soon the other person will become gentle too. God tells us that gentleness turns away wrath.

The King James Version uses the word meekness for gentleness. Do not mistake meekness for weakness because that is the last thing it is. President Lincoln told us that meekness is strength under control. Jesus was our example of meekness, or gentleness. Through Him, we can control our words, attitude, and touch too.

Strive to be Christi-like and be gentle.

Friday, July 25, 2014

Creating Balance In Our Lives

Raising a family can be one of the greatest challenges we will go through in our lives.  There will be many days that the challenge seems to be greater than the energy that is left within our bodies.  Many years ago, I discovered a website from a seasoned mom, who admitted from the start, that she didn’t have it all together. 

At that season in my life, I had been married for about four years, had two small babies that were 17 months apart, and was suffocating in a life that was full of unbalance.  After living in a small townhouse for a couple years, we had just moved into a new house with lots of space…or what should have been lots of space. 

The problem was my stuff.  My stuff was overwhelming.  It was in every room, in every corner, everywhere.  Looking back at it, it was very symbolic of where I was at emotionally, and what I had brought into my marriage just four short years before.  I was depressed, overwhelmed, and not getting things done for my family to function at its best. But then I discovered a website,, and my life was forever changed.  I did take her advice and began to follow her program, little by little. 

Today I’ve still got progress to make, but I have learned to overcome the chaos (most of the time) and make time for my family who needs me.  I created an acrostic to help keep myself in check and make sure that BALANCE is a part of my life everyday.

The process of organizing your life does not happen overnight.  Don’t try to do it all in one day.  You’ll become overwhelmed and just have to do it all again the next time.  Start with one thing.  Flylady suggests shining your sink each night before bed.  Just start with working on a project 15 minutes at a time.  Once that time is up, take a break or move on to something else.  The Bible says that God reveals himself in pieces.  We must trust Him to show us how to begin this process of wholeness.

Attitude is everything!  As moms, we tend to get a martyr attitude about the things we have to do.  We throw pity parties and then get stuck.  The Word tells us to take captive every thought and put it under submission of God’s Word.  The Word also says we are a new man, the old is gone, the new is come.  We are to become more like Christ daily, going from Glory to Glory.  The old saying, when momma ain’t happy, ain’t nobody happy, is true.  Your attitude permeates your house and your family and sets the tone for the way things are going to be.  Choose to have an attitude that is pleasing to Christ.

L-Let go of the Clutter
I’ve always thought myself to be borderline hoarder. I watch that show about hoarders and think, I understand how that could happen to me so easily!  In my marriage, this has always been an area that I have struggled with.  My husband is very neat and organized.  He has always struggled with my messes and lack of organization.  But the day I moved into our new house and my craft room was literally floor to ceiling boxes of craft supplies, I had to apologize to my husband and God and learn to let things go.  You can’t organize clutter.  By letting go you begin the healing process.  In The Word, Paul expressed, “forgetting what is behind, I press toward the mark of the high calling.”  This is what we must do to move closer to Christ and our family.

A-Align Your Thinking With the Word
Not only your physical stuff needs to be cleaned out, but also our emotional and mental capacities need to be decluttered.  When you begin the process of physically removing stuff from your life, you will begin to release those emotional things that are more than likely at the root of the problem.  For me, I sought out good Christian counseling to help with those things that I didn’t even know were there.  This has been a continual journey, but staying in the Word of God daily and seeking His will have changed my life, and consequentially, my family also.  He provides us with strength and the Holy Spirit works through us by giving back to us peace, joy, and time.

N-No!  Learn to say No!
Learning to say no is crucial to this process.  We are only human.  Sometimes we have things that are good, but not always the best.  God wants us to prune those things that are not the best in our lives so He can grow the things that are best in us.  This also goes for our physical bodies as well.  We must discipline ourselves and be healthy about what goes in our bodies. 

C- Create Routine
For me, this step has been vital.  On my emotional days (and we know we all have them), I don’t even have to think anymore about what has to get done in order for our family to function properly.  I have trained myself to automatically get those things done.  For me, it looks like this:  Get up, shower, get dressed DOWN TO MY LACE UP SHOES, brush teeth, deodorant, hair, make bed, switch laundry, eat something with protein, and head out the door.  I also have a not so structured evening routine that includes switching laundry, brushing teeth, and most importantly, reading the Word.  Whatever your routine is, be consistent with it!  It will keep you from getting stuck and will motivate you to be productive in your day no matter what is going on.

E-Eliminate perfection and Enjoy the process
Psalms 119:96 says Even perfection has its limits, but your commands have no limits.  A definition of perfection is “mature or complete”, not flawless.  In Christ, there are several different maturity levels and there is always room to grow.  God wants us to be mature right where we’re at.  Your house may seem overwhelming, but that’s because we put up our own standards of perfectionism, then beat ourselves up because it’s not done perfectly, or better yet, never start at all!  God tells us that we are good enough.  He doesn’t expect you to be flawless, just mature where you are at.  As we go from maturity level to maturity level, God will grow us where we are at.

When we follow these steps, balance is created in our homes.  With balance comes peace.  I pray peace over each of you today.

Thursday, July 24, 2014

Trials and Troubles come, but...

by:  Debi 

"12 Let your hope make you glad.  Be patient in
time of trouble and never stop praying."
Romans 12:12 CEV

We all have a hope...a hope in Christ.  That hope should 
make us glad and able to withstand
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anything that the enemy would throw our way.  We all go through trials and troubles...boy, do we?  Sometimes those trials and troubles seem to take over our life.  I've been there...on more than one occasion.  We must know that that is a part of life and that just because we are a Christian doesn't mean that it won't happen.  KNOW the enemy despises us.  KNOW that he has one thing on his destroy us!  KNOW that God has our back.  And "
31 ...If God is for us, who can ever be against us?"  Romans 8:31 NLT  There is nothing the enemy can do to us because God is for us!  Be patient in those times of trial and trouble.  KNOW that God has a reason for allowing them to come your way!  And most importantly...NEVER, EVER stop praying for the Father's will!

God is a good God who loves His children and wants no harm to come to them.  Trust Him in times of trouble...ask Him what He is trying to teach you during that time.  Learn from it and move on being glad in your Hope which is Christ Jesus!!

Have a blessed day!

Wednesday, July 23, 2014

Suffering is No Excuse to Stop Serving

By: Shari A. Miller


We've all had our share of misfortunes that have come into our life and shaped us into who we are.

When we go through these trials it can be easy to take our eyes off the Father and put them onto the pain we are feeling. We can get caught up in our situation, spin our wheels with worry, and end up going no where fast. The truth is, we can get so focused on self and our problems that we and forget the searing truth of what being a child of God means.

Being a child of God, means resting in His presence, trusting Him with our lives, and knowing that He will work all things out for our good.

So, when the times of suffering come, we need to remember that it's no excuse to stop serving.

No, matter how deep the hurt is that you bare, you need to turn to Jesus and remember the resounding truth that God offers us, 

"Be still and know that I am God." Psalm 46:10 (NIV)

Paul and Silas knew the exact meaning of praising Jesus, while they where going through suffering, 

"About midnight Paul and Silas were praying and singing hymns to God, and the other prisoners were listening to them." Acts 16:25 (NIV)

Even in prison they did not focus on their earthly troubles, but instead they put their focus on God, and they where a witness to God because of this.

I want to challenge you this week....when the troubles of life seem to overwhelm you and you feel like you are drowning and have no way out....turn to Jesus. 

Praise Him, and seek His guidance through the situation. Ask Him what you are supposed to be learning, and who you are supposed to becoming during this time. In doing these things, He will be glorified and others will see Jesus inside of you, because you choose to use your trial for good and in turn glorify His name. 

"Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be frightened, and do not be dismayed, for the Lord your God is with you wherever you go.” Matthew 28:20

It is time for our Woman to Woman Word Filled Wednesday Link Up. We desire to connect women of God with one another and encourage each other in Christ. So grab a cup of coffee, sit back and visit a few blogs. Be encouraged and share your own stories in their comments.

Use the hashtag #w2wwordfilledwednesday! 

Three rules to this link up:
1. Must be a {Christian} faith post.
2. You must link back to W2W somewhere in your post.
3. You must visit and comment on at least one other blog in the link up.

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Tuesday, July 22, 2014

Crockpot Chicken and Noodles

By: Melissa Baker

This is an easy, "go to" recipe that has very few ingredients. You can throw it in the crock pot and let it cook while you are working, at ball games, shopping, etc. Very simple yet really delicious! 

  • 4 boneless skinless chicken breasts (I used frozen)
  • 2 cans cream of chicken soup
  • 1 stick of butter
  • 2-15 oz cans chicken broth
  • 24oz. frozen egg noodles


Cook chicken, soup, butter, and broth in crock-pot on low for 6-7 hours. 
Take chicken out and shred. 
Put chicken back in; add noodles and cook on low for 2 hours. 
Stir a few times while cooking

Tip: Serve with mashed potatoes.

This recipe is courtesy of