I read this quote from Sally Clarkson, Author of The Ministry of Motherhood and about fell out of my chair. My words don't extend grace to my kids. 99.9% of the time they get the stressed out irritated at their actions and/or their father part of me.
My husband comes home and all he wants to talk about is what went wrong at work that day, he doesn't get words of grace, I completley ignore him adding an mhm or uh huh as needed.
My daughter has an accident or steals a toy from her brother, my words aren't kind or gentle they are of anger and contempt.
My son wakes up cranky from a nap and wants to follow me around crying and upset, I sure don't show him grace or gentleness, only irritation and a short temper.
I've heard over and over and over again the woman sets the tone for her home, what tone are you setting. Tone usually indicates how we speak to our families. God's words spoke the earth into motion, Jesus spoke demons out of people and healed sick with words, words can tear down or build up. Are you making sure your tounge is building up instead of tearing down? I haven't been.
Oh Lord change my heart, mold me to who you want me to be. Teach me how to be kind and gentle. Teach me how to extend the grace that you've so freely given me. Change my heart God.
“Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.” Eph. 4:29
“A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.” Prov. 15:1