Wednesday, May 1, 2013

Reformed Performer

I am a performer.

My stage is not in Hollywood, California or in an off-Broadway theatre on the streets of New York. Rather, it was in my classrooms growing up. But I wasn't the class clown. I was the hard-worker. I sat in the front row, listened attentively, and turned beet red if I ever got in trouble. One day in sixth grade, I almost got detention for chewing gum.

I thought my world had ended. What would my parents say of my actions?

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I am a director.

My stage doesn't have bright lights or movie cameras. There isn't a star sign on my dressing room door. No, my stage now is in my own house and I find myself using a director's voice more than a doting mother's tone most of the time.

I am a performer and a director. I expect things to move like clock-work, for people to say their lines, to be where they are supposed to be. "Do not diverge from the script!" I might say. Going off the beaten path, striking out on your own, unconformity, no that is not me.

I perform so that you will like me. I perform so you will think I am good. I perform so that I can get your accolades. I may not come off as a diva, but it's all a selfish facade, just the same.

I direct because I want it my way. Don't change the plan. I don't like to feel uncomfortable. I don't like not knowing what comes next.

One day, I thought I must have been looking in the mirror, except for the fact that there was no shiny surface. But I was still seeing myself. In my daughters.

You see, one has become a performer (but with more dramatic flair) and one has become a director. And they both want their way, just like their mother.

It's too bad my way and there ways are not the same way.

But there is hope. It involves some role changes and a different script. But my girls are not the only ones that have to drop the diva act.

I do, too.

And I have to give up my seat in the director's chair, letting Jesus move in, with His Word as the megaphone that resonates in our hearts.

With Him running the show, there seems to be a lot less demands for perfection. There is more grace for the impromptu changes that are simply a part of life. Forgiveness flows more freely and judgment cast aside.

The unscripted life allows for our true character to emerge and Jesus molds our heart to His way. We end up shining more brightly than the likes of me could ever plan and arrange.

Somewhere along the way, He changes our selfish ways to selfless ways, where compassion flows and people take notice.

It's not a performance, but it still feels like a dance.

Conversation starter: Can you resonate with the title of "performer" and/or "director?" How so? How do you work to allow Jesus to work in your family life to keep Him as the One ultimately in charge?

Jen is passionate about Jesus and walking in community with sisters in Christ to better know Him and make Him known to the world. While there are many facets to her life, she actively tries to live without labels so to live in the fullness of who God created her to be. She will encourage other women to do the same as she speaks and writes for His glory. She lives outside of Austin, Texas with her husband, two little girls, and her running partner, Hank the Cow Dog. Jen is the founder of the s(He) Listens and writes at Finding Heaven Today.  You can find her on Facebook and Twitter.


  1. Jen, thank you for posting today. This is such beautiful and timely encouragement.

  2. Ahh the many masks we make to get through life. Fake it until you make it, right? And Lord have mercy if someone upsets all my control. ha! But if I take off my mask I am more vulnerable right? you might hurt me or make fun of me???

    The longer I live I am certain our human struggle to control everything is the root of all sin.

    Great post, Jen!

  3. Oh, Jen, I, too, am a retired performer. The whole idea of surrendering the script used to petrify me. Now I'm afraid that I'll miss the better story because I'm clinging to mine... it's been a process, but I'm learning to pass the pen to the Author of Life!

  4. I told you we were twins separated at birth!!! Love ya, Michelle

  5. I TOLD you we were twins separated at birth!!! Love ya! Michelle

  6. Both you of speak about the sin of trying to control. I so agree. Every day I pray that I get closer to letting it all go ... into His hands.

  7. Jen, this is AWESOME!! If I didn't know better, I'd have thought I was reading about myself, and my daughters!! Two phrases in particular - "...its all a selfish facade...", and "Don't change the plan.....I don't like not knowing what comes next." How true, how true.....thanks for posting this eye-opener. And I'm so tickled that you're guest-posting on Jen Metzger's blog - you are two of my favorites!! :)


  8. Jen, this is AWESOME! If I didn't know better I'd think I was reading about myself and my daughters! Two phrases specifically: "...its all a selfish facade..." and "Don't change the plan.....I don't like not know what's coming next." Thanks for posting this eye-opener. And I'm so excited you're guest-posting on Jen Metzger's blog - you are two of my favorite people!! Love ya!


  9. Jen, this is AWESOME! Its as if I'm reading about myself and my girls!! Thanks for this eye-opener, and I'm so glad you're guest-posting on Jen Metzger's blog - you are two of my favorite ladies!! Love ya!

  10. Totally a recovering director. I came from a family of directors so breaking the cycle is my purpose in life :) I find that directors have expectations that are usually unspoken and that others should be able to "read." You're right: controlling is a sin.


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