I don't care what experts think or what the world thinks, I believe it is essential for a mom/wife to take time out for herself. The Bible tells us to put away all selfishness ~ is taking a time out considered selfishness? If the husband is at home with the kids and you decide out of frustration to leave or run and hide upstairs that could be considered selfish BUT if you're running away from your family and running to God is that considered selfish? No I don't think so.
I want to start going to the gym. I have access to a free gym through my mother's work and it's open 24/7. As hard as I try I can not make myself get up at 5am to go for 2 hours before my husband leaves for work. Tonight I had plans of going and spending 2 hours until the kids went to bed then come home and let my husband do his errands. Guilt and shame creeped up on me and told me I was being a bad mom wanting to run away from my kids and take a few hours to myself. I have felt like God is telling me to get healthy but I could not make myself leave. If I tell my kids and my husband to wait until I get done then they can have me, is that selfishness? It's a fine line to balance me time and family time.
I've heard a lot that the woman sets the tone for her home, but if we're spent from spending all day every day with the kids or all day every day at work with gossiping co-workers then isn't it good for your family for you to spend a little time with God away from your family to get filled back up so you can give yourself to your family once again? I think husbands want to help us with housework but they don't know what they can help with, give your husband a list and have him watch the kids or take the kids on a daddy date and take some time for yourself. I think we should kick guilt and shame out the window and take a mommy time-out. I'll be talking more about mommy time-outs in a future post.
Do you struggle with this? Do you take time out for yourself every once in a while? Please share your thoughts on this with me, I'd love to know how you balance you time and family time.