Monday, May 2, 2011

A True Help Mate

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My husband is a busy man working hard to take care of our family.  Jeremy works construction and right now his job site is an hour and a half away.  A long drive for anyone, especially a man with ADHD who dislikes being in the car anyway.  He gets up around 4:30am each day, makes the long drive, works eight hours and makes the long drive back.  When he gets home around 5:30 he would love nothing more than to sit down and relax.  But he doesn't get to.  We have baseball for our sons five nights a week, plus church on Wednesdays.  The moment he walks in the door he is rushed to the dinner table, shower and out the door.  When we get back home and everyone is showered and ready for bed it is around 10:00pm.  If you do the math, that is not the recommended eight hours of sleep.  On top of all this he has four children to give attention to.  He mows our lawn and washes our cars and we are assisting in a church plant right now.  I am beginning to think busy doesn't even describe it.

My husband just learned that starting this weekend for the next two months he will also be working on Saturdays.  His one and only day to sleep in and catch up on things is now taken away from him.  This is where I, his helpmate, come in.  I need to step up and help him in any way I can to ease his extra burden.  

"The LORD God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.” Genesis 2:18

Our husbands need our help.  God created us to be their helpmate.  We are there to help lighten their load when possible.  

Recently I was very busy and mentioned my many errands to a sweet sister.  She text me the next day and asked if she could help me with anything.  I was so touched.  That is the kind of thing we need to do for our husbands.  Ask them if we can help with anything.  I told my husband to let me know what I can do for him during these two months he will be working extra.  I even offered to learn to mow the grass (no, I do not know how to mow grass, crazy, huh?).  

What can you do to help your husband?  Run an errand?  Make a few phone calls?  Set out his clothes for the next day?  Take on one of his chores around the house?  Ladies, ask your husband what you can do to lighten his load and help him.  

Let's be the helpmate God created us to be.

Sweet Blessings~


  1. You are so right, Jenifer, our husbands do need for us to "help" them. My husband is working one and a half jobs and I am trying to learn the book-keeping for his business, so that I can do that for him. I am getting very frustrated, but I am persevering, I really need to learn it. I also do calls for him, which I really don't like, but he's worth it.
    I mow the lawns and wash the car already, in that season anyway. Not yet! But our hubby's are worth it.
    Hugs, Cindy

  2. What a blessing that God has given us in the role of help-mate. My husband travels a lot... just left again today for the week and it's been hard. But the best thing I can do as his help-mate (for him) is to stay on his team... not get angry, bitter or resentful in this busy time. It would be easy to do that, so I have to stay in prayer over our life at all times, so I can find His perspective easily anytime I start to slip. The other thing I must do is keep his status as the best dad ever in the eyes of our children. Yes, he's missing a lot right now and it'd be easy to beat him up, but instead I tell the children that he is working so hard right now for them and that it won't be forever. I remind them that he loves them and that he'll be home very soon :) Great post!

  3. I agree...we need to help our husbands out as much as we can. It's not always easy for mowing the grass...he is SO very picky about his yard...I just don't do it like he does and so it's easier for me to not do it. He really cherishes the time he mows and if I did it, it would not be 'his' way and then he would want to re-do it. But, I can help other ways. And, I do. And by the same token, he helps me out. We are both very busy with our various responsibilities but when we help each other out, it makes the most menial task go by faster. And...a bonus is more time spent together!

  4. Ouch, this post kinda hit home for me. There are so many times my hubby asks me to do something and I see it as an inconvenience. Even though he's one of the millions who has been out of work and has begun taking care of the house - there are still things he asks me to help with. Instead of rolling my eyes ( which I'm famous for) when he asks me to help him do something on the pc which is my strength to his weakness,I should change my lenses and be the helpmate my hubby needs and God intended.

  5. It's a partnership. God gives us husbands so we can have help but we should remember to also help them. I'm guilty of just letting him do everything because he wants to and he doesn't complain about anything but I should help without him asking. Thanks for this great post!

  6. Great reminder. We need to help lighten the loads of those in our lives. I actually love mowing the grass! Who knows...maybe you will love it too! :)

  7. For years now, I've been trying to do more and more of what I previously considered my husband's chores. This frees up his time to rest.

  8. Wow, great post!!! I'm pretty independent, but I like to know that my husband is there to help me and take care of me. I want to do the same for him. It works best when there are two people working together. I want to help with my husband's burden and not add to it.
    Sorry to hear that Jeremy is going to be working on Saturdays. But we have to rejoice that he has work. God will provide the rest.

  9. Yes, we are definetly praising God for the extra work! It will be a touch couple of months but a such a blessing. :)

  10. Well I don't have a husband but I would gladly mow the lawn if he would fold the clothes, I hate folding clothes, I will wash them, dry them and put them away I just hate folding them.

  11. Kandi, thank you for stopping by! Marriage is about team work! :) I hope you come back by. We have a different topic each day, not just marriage. Although we encourage our single readers to pray that God would help them to the kind of spouse they should be when the time does come. Blessings to you!

  12. I want to be a helpmate in any way I can. I do most things for my hubby, but not always with a willing spirit. I enjoy serving him...but can work on my attitude sometimes for sure :-)


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