My kids are always getting in to mischief. "Abbie don't hit your brother" "Shayne don't bite your sister" "Don't throw food at each other!" "Don't take your brother's toy". "Don't jump on the couch"
After several sessions in time-out and their bed-time suddenly arrives I find myself wondering if I even said "good job" to them on that day.
Since I heard we should praise our children 100 times more than scolding them, I've been asking God to help me to show them kindness and praise them and slowly my yelling and scolding has gotten better. It's not completley gone but it's better praise God.
If we don't praise our children, pretty soon they will think they can't do anything right. If we are always scolding then that will be the only thing engrained in their brains. They need to hear they are doing a good job.
God does this with us. He lets us know that He's proud of us by blessing us when we do something He has asked of us, so why wouldn't we do follow that same example with our children.
A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger. Proverbs 15:1
A hot-tempered man stirs up dissension, but a patient man calms a quarrel Proverbs 15:18