Love One Another

By: Melanie Moore

Last week, we looked at the different types of love in the Bible. We understand that these different types of love are a reflection of the different types of relationships which God has given us with one another, and most importantly, with Him.

So how do we love others in the way that God intended for us? What should our posture be in communicating love for others? Sometimes the way we express love may not be understood by others.

You may have heard of different "love languages" such as gifts, physical touch, words of affirmation, acts of service, quality time, etc. I remember early in my marriage, my husband would often clean the house or do laundry because his love language is "acts of service". However, this is not my love language so I misunderstood his intentions each time he would clean or do laundry. I thought he was somehow bothered by the messiness in our house and felt agitated rather than loved. 

After we talked about his intentions, though, it became very clear to me that by performing acts of service, he wanted to show love to me and give me time to rest and relax, rather than having to worry about chores. Sometimes, we may have different ways to love one another and we may even have misunderstandings. However, I have learned that God uses the love that we have for one another to build each other up. Each time I see my husband doing something to help me, I am reminded of his love for me because I know his heart behind acts of service.

God sees our intentions and our hearts, and he will take the words or works that we offer others and use them as an instrument of love if our motives and intentions are pure. I am reminded of this verse that calls us to (really) love one another.

Don’t just pretend to love others. Really love them.
Hate what is wrong. Hold tightly to what is good.
Love each other with genuine affection,
and take delight in honoring each other.

~ Romans 12:9-10 (NLT)

Are there relationships in your life where you have been holding out on love? Are there ways that you can (really, really, really) love them? Don't just say you love another person. Serve them in love. Build them up with your words. Listen to their hearts. 

Don't just pretend to love others.

Really love them.