Wednesday, August 5, 2020

Home Builder VS Home Destroyer

By: Jenifer Metzger

There are two kinds of women; one who builds her home and one who pulls it down. As the woman of the home, we have the power to build up our home and the people in it, but we also have the power to tear it, and the people in it, down.

The wise woman builds her house,
but the foolish pulls it down with her hands.
Proverbs 14:1

I desperately seek to be a woman who builds her home, though I will admit that it is not always easy. At times it feels like that is too much responsibility on my part; after all, there are some days I want to be mad, I want to have an attitude, I want to take my frustration out, yet all that does is pull down my home and my people.

Here are ways to be a home builder.

Your Husband:
  1. Daily look him in the eyes and tell him that you love him.
  2. Tell him that you appreciate him.
  3. Tell him that you respect him.
  4. Tell him thank you for things he does, big and small.
  5. Tell him that you are praying for him, and then pray for him.
  6. Praise him and his efforts to others.
  7. Help him when you can.
  8. Check your words and tone of voice before responding to him.
  9. Respond in a positive way to his physical touch.
  10. Keep the lines of communication open.
Your children:
  1. Daily look them in the eyes and tell them that you love them.
  2. Tell your kids you appreciate them.
  3. Tell your kids you are thankful for them.
  4. Tell your kids thank you for the things they do, big and small.
  5. Tell your kids that you are praying for them, and then pray for them.
  6. Praise their efforts to others.
  7. Use teachable moments in life.
  8. Check your words and tone of voice before responding to them.
  9. Use physical touch, such as a pat on the back or hug.
  10. Communicate with them.
Your atmosphere:
  1. Play praise music in your home.
  2. Read Bible verses with your family.
  3. Have Bible verses displayed in your home.
  4. Pray daily with your family.
  5. Display the Fruits of the Spirit in all you say and do.
  6. Keep your home inviting so that your family feels comfortable.
  7. Make sure your family knows they can talk to you about all things.
  8. Be available.
  9. Be present.
  10. Be well rested.

What are other ways you can be a home builder?

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  1. This is great, Jenifer! We just wrapped up our Summer 2020 Book Club-Style Bible Study, a 10-week study of the book of Proverbs, and this is such an excellent reminder!

  2. What great lists! We can get so caught up in the idea of ministering outside the home, but these are our first ministries and responsibilities.

    I wrote this week about God's Word as our guide and the lens through which we look at everything else:

  3. We need these reminders every now and then. In these stressful days, these lists help us to stay focused on building up our homes.

    My post today:

  4. Praise music is a great way to be a home builder. It changes the entire atmosphere. That's why I keep great music on daily.

    This week, I wrote about the home I grew up in. You can read about it here


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