Monday, March 19, 2018

Why Is Her Grass Greener

By: Jenifer Metzger

I love grass. I know those three words grouped together sound silly, but they are true. I love the look of plush, bright green grass. In the spring when things begin to turn green, I get giddy with excitement. However, our lawn hasn't been plush nor has it been bright green. We've struggled with our lawn for a couple of years now, so when we drive around and I see these full green lawns, I think, Ugh! Why can't our lawn look like that? I want their beautiful grass. My husband always tells me the same thing. "They water and fertilize it." We've slacked on the watering and fertilizing these years, which has caused our not so pretty grass. The heat of the sun in the summer months and the lack of rain will quickly kill a lawn. In order for it to look nice, we must water and fertilize it.

What about in our life? We see a co-worker accepting a large bouquet of roses from the delivery man or a friend posting to Facebook about her big date night and we think why can't my marriage be like that. We see a husband opening the car door for his wife or a couple walking hand in hand and we wonder why can't we be like that. We've been beat down by this marriage thing. It's harder than we ever imagined. This meshing of two lives is taking a toll and you begin to wonder if it's worth it. You are your husband are constantly bickering with one another and days may pass without a single physical connection. Just like the hot sun and lack of rain will kill a lawn not watered and fertilized, the pressures of life will kill a marriage that has not been watered and fertilized.

In order to get our lawn greener and more full for summer, we had to begin in the dark winter months. Then, we must water and fertilize it regularly. In order to make our marriage work, in order to see a positive change, we must water and fertilize it regularly, especially in the dark times. Invest in your marriage friends. Don't leave it to happenstance. Greener grass has been watered and fertilized. A happy marriage has been watered and fertilized.

Sunday, March 18, 2018

Chased by goodness and mercy...

Psalm 23 is one of those chapters in the Bible that most everyone has heard at some time or another. Perhaps you've heard the saying, "familiarity breeds contempt"? While our familiarity with this Psalm may not breed contempt it may blind us to some of its powerful truths.

"Surely goodness and mercy shall follow me all the days of my life and I will dwell in the house of the Lord forever" is the most common way we've all heard verse six of Psalm 23.  Recent translations more correctly translate the word follow as pursue.  The Hebrew word used there is "radaph".  It means to pursue, run after,  or to chase. Writer Ann Voskamp says that God hunts us down to show us His goodness and mercy.  WoW!  Those are much more aggressive words than the word follow.  God is serious about making sure His goodness and mercy get to us, reach us, and overtake us. God loves us so much that He is chasing us down with His goodness and mercy. What hope, comfort and encouragement that should give us.

still following,

Wednesday, March 14, 2018

Respect is Essential


Emily Miller

It is a concept that we try to practice, yet struggle with doing so.

Everyone in our lives wants to be shown respect. They want to be told that their values, opinions, and ideas matter.

However, one of the ways in which I believe we fail in this aspect is by the fact that we can have the tendency, sometimes without meaning to, to use words that hurt the people we care about in our lives.

Sometimes, out of anger, we will chose words that we know will hurt the other person. Usually you regret these words later, if not the moment they come out of your mouth. This is because the devil LOVES it when he can wreak havocand conflict in our very own homes.

It is like it says in the Bible. The tongue can be the hardest part of the Body to control that we have to constantly keep in check.

Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.
-Ephesians 4:29

We all want to strive to be Godly women who uplift and encourage each other. That may mean being in constant prayer when you do come into conflict with someone that it can be used as a healthy (yes, conflict is healthy) form of communication, and not a tool to tear each other down. 



It is time for the Woman to Woman Word Filled Wednesday Link Up. We desire to connect women of God with one another and encourage each other in Christ. So grab a cup of coffee or glass of sweet tea, sit back and visit a few blogs. Be encouraged and share your own stories in their comments.

Use hashtag #w2wwordfilledwednesday

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Monday, March 12, 2018

I Need A Do Over

By: Jenifer Metzger

As a mom and children's pastor, I constantly hear kids say the words, "I need a do over." Whether they are playing a game or doing a craft, they mess up. All they want is another chance to start over. They know that if they can just begin again, things will be better.

Have you ever felt that way? Your day just isn't going as you hoped or planned and you just need a do over. The truth is, we've all felt that way at some point in life. Many of us have felt that way already today. We just want to start fresh.

Because of the Lord’s faithful love we do not perish, for His mercies never end.
They are new every morning; great is your faithfulness!
Lamentations 3:22-23

The good news is we can have a fresh start! We don't even have to wait until morning! You can start over, even right this moment. Here are a few ways to have a do over.


Close your eyes. Take a few deep cleansing breathes. When I get busy or stressed out, it feels as if I stop breathing. I know that is not the truth, I obviously continue to breathe. But it feels as if I stop, like maybe I am holding my breath. In those moments I have to close my eyes and remind myself to breathe.


Nothing changes the attitude and atmosphere faster than worship. Put on worship music and let it move you. Maybe you need some slow music like Reckless Love or Tremble. Or maybe you need something upbeat like Worth More Than Gold or Out of the Dark. Whatever it is, turn it up and worship!

Give yourself a time out.

When our kids act up we put them in time out. It's a time, just a couple of minutes, to let them refocus and start over. Maybe you need a time out. Sit at the table or in your favorite chair or on your bed, close your eyes, and just sit there for a couple of minutes. Refocus and start over.


Nothing, absolutely nothing, will give you a fresh start better than prayer. When we pray, we are aligning ourselves with God. When we are properly aligned, we have a beautiful fresh start. Spend a few minutes with the Father. Ask Him to forgive you of any actions, words, or attitudes that were not pleasing, and ask Him to help you start over.

What are other ways you give yourself a do over?

Sunday, March 11, 2018

Valley seasons...

Why is it that sometimes it seems as though winter is twice as long as the other seasons?  There have been years when it felt like spring would never come.  Yet, it inevitably did come.  There's never been a year that winter lasted forever. There's never been a year when spring didn't come.

There are times when a season of waiting on God for an answer to prayer or a season of testing and trial can seem to stretch on forever.  I call them the valley times.  No one chooses or enjoys being in a valley of difficulty but we all will face a valley season at one time or another.

There are two things that have helped me survive the valley seasons in my life.  The first is to keep on walking.  God never intended us to camp out or dwell in the valley. Time after time, God's word talks about us walking though the valley.  It never instructs us to pitch a tent or build a house and dwell there.  When we keep on walking, in spite of how tempting it is to lie down, give up, and quit, we will inevitably one day find ourselves walking right on out of the valley.

The second thing that has helped me to survive, and dare I say even at times to thrive, the valley season is to hold fast to hope. My hope is found in the truth and promises of God's Word.  They are my lifeline. I read them, underline them, memorize them, pray them and remind God and myself what He has promised.  I know that God is reliable, sure and faithful to His Word.  I also know that just as no winter lasts forever, no valley in my life has ever lasted forever.  Sure, some valley times lasted way longer that I would have liked, but eventually every valley season I have been through came to an end. I came out of some of the valley seasons with a few battle scars.  I came out of some of the valleys mourning losses - loss of a loved one, loss of a friendship.  But, I came out.  You see, the enemy would love to keep you living in the valley forever.  He'd love to convince you that you are a victim of the valley.  He wants you to believe that for some reason you are on the bottom of the list of God's kids.  The enemy would love to convince you that you are the Cinderella of God's family but there's no fairy godmother coming to bail you out of your awful circumstances. Remember, that the Bible is a book of opposite thinking than the world's thinking.  The world thinks an easy life is a blessed life.  However, God's family photo gallery is filled with the faces of those who went through the valley and came out victorious.  There isn't a main character in all of God's Word who didn't experience suffering. God included them in His Word for a reason.  He has given them to us as examples.  We, too, can come out on the other side of the valley victorious if we will keep putting one foot in front of the other, keep on walking, and hold on tightly to the hope that God has given us.

still following,

Wednesday, March 7, 2018

Compromise is Key


Emily Miller

It is a word that is becoming lost in today's society.

We have such a collective need to prove that we are right (maybe even more so for us ladies), that we forget that other people may not always think like us.

Sometimes you have to step away from your own viewpoint for a moment. Realize that you are not always right. There may be times where you and the other person BOTH may be right, as you both have good valid arguments on an issue.

When it comes to arguments like this, you have to agree to find some sort of a middle ground for someone. Be willing to compromise. Make concessions to the other side without compromising the values you hold.

It is more difficult than it sounds.

The rhetoric you utilize in your argument is also key. There are certain words or phrases, no matter how minor the issue may seem to you, that WILL trigger the other person into backing into a defensive mode. When you use words like this, nothing will get done. All you will end up doing is sitting in your opposite corners, hurling insults and accusations at each other. 

Know this, my beloved brothers: let every person be quick to hear, slow to speak, slow to anger; for the anger of man does not produce the righteousness of God.
-James 1:19-20

Even after you try to sit down and have a mutual, constructive discussion, all you may end up doing is agreeing to disagree. You have to respect the other person's right to do so without accusing them of being wrong, as this following passage of scripture suggests;

As for the one who is weak in faith, welcome him, but not to quarrel over opinions.  One person believes he may eat anything, while the weak person eats only vegetables.  Let not the one who eats despise the one who abstains, and let not the one who abstains pass judgment on the one who eats, for God has welcomed him. Who are you to pass judgment on the servant of another? It is before his own master that he stands or falls. And he will be upheld, for the Lord is able to make him stand.
 One person esteems one day as better than another, while another esteems all days alike. Each one should be fully convinced in his own mind. The one who observes the day, observes it in honor of the Lord. The one who eats, eats in honor of the Lord, since he gives thanks to God, while the one who abstains, abstains in honor of the Lord and gives thanks to God.  For none of us lives to himself, and none of us dies to himself. For if we live, we live to the Lord, and if we die, we die to the Lord. So then, whether we live or whether we die, we are the Lord's. For to this end Christ died and lived again, that he might be Lord both of the dead and of the living. Why do you pass judgment on your brother? Or you, why do you despise your brother? For we will all stand before the judgment seat of God; for it is written, “As I live, says the Lord, every knee shall bow to me, and every tongue shall confess to God.” So then each of us will give an account of himself to God.
-Romans 14:1-12

I think the passage above sums up the very idea of compromise beautifully. We all can have differences of opinion, but in the end, the only thing that REALLY matters, that we are ALL defined in Christ alone.



It is time for the Woman to Woman Word Filled Wednesday Link Up. We desire to connect women of God with one another and encourage each other in Christ. So grab a cup of coffee or glass of sweet tea, sit back and visit a few blogs. Be encouraged and share your own stories in their comments.

Use hashtag #w2wwordfilledwednesday

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2. Link back to W2W somewhere in your post. (Feel free to use our button if you want!)
3. Visit and comment on at least one other blog in the link up.

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Monday, March 5, 2018

What Are Your Words Like?

By: Jenifer Metzger

Think about this: you start your day with a piece of paper divided into two columns. One column would be kind, encouraging, and loving words. The other column would be harsh or negative words, and discipline. Each time you speak to your family you mark a tally in the appropriate column. At the end of the day you go over your tallies. Which column has more tally marks? Is your kind and encouraging column heavy or a little light?

Friends, our words matter. The words we speak can bring life or death.

I am not saying to not discipline your child or to avoid difficult subjects with your husband. We must discipline our children. If we love them, we will discipline them, just as our loving Father disciplines us. And difficult subjects need to be lovingly discussed and worked through with our spouses. When it comes to our children, the more we show them love, use kind words, and build the relationship with them, the more they will listen to us in those times of discipline. This is not about being a friend to your child, we are the parent not the friend, it is about showing love to your child. The same for our husband, if we constantly use negative or rude words, eventually he will tune us out.

Let's see what the Bible has to say about our words:

Pleasant words are a honeycomb:
sweet to the taste and health to the body.
Proverbs 16:24

A gentle answer turns away anger,
but a harsh word stirs up wrath.
Proverbs 15:1

Her mouth speaks wisdom,
and loving instruction is on her tongue.
Proverbs 31:26

In those times when we are frustrated, tired, or hungry, you know, those times it's easy to be short tempered or rude with others, we need to make sure our words are gentle and loving.

Today as you communicate with your family make sure you are adding more tallies to the loving side than the harsh side.

Sunday, March 4, 2018

Looking for satisfaction...

Hunger and thirst for God is the homing device He places in our heart, 
drawing us back to the place of our origin, 
back to His great heart, 
back to His love.

We may try to silence the desperation within with
and while these things may momentarily 
muzzle the hunger pains 
they never truly satisfy.

We may search for God among the gods of this world
thinking that our spiritual hunger and thirst will find satisfaction there.
But it all tastes like sawdust in our mouth,
 trying to love a god made in our own image who cannot love us back.

We are made with a hunger for the Love that loved us first. (1 John 4:19)

He desires a deep relationship with us,
and places within us desire, hunger, and thirst for Him.
He is both the Source of the hunger and the Satisfaction.

still following,

Thursday, March 1, 2018


by Debi Baker

"Do not be conformed to this age, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, 
so that you may discern what is the good, pleasing, and perfect will of God."
Romans 12:1 CSB

This ol' world is on a destructive path.  I guess you could say it always has been.  Every generation has had it's destructive behaviors.  I can't tell you all of them but there is always something that is most prevalent, good or bad...and from what I can remember, mostly bad, in that season.  For us in 2017-18, at least right now, it's all about gun control; being politically correct; not offending anyone.  No, we should NOT go about trying to hurt others.  No, we should NOT go about causing trouble.  But we also don't have to constantly believe that others are intentionally hurting us or being insensitive.

I'm so tired of everyone being offended about everything.  Yes, I get offended on occasion but not often.  See, being offended is a choice.  We can choose to NOT be offended.  We don't have to immediately jump to the conclusion that someone is purposely being mean.  However, it seems so many people decide TO BE offended.  The easiest way to choose not to be offended is to renew our minds.  Get into God's Word.  Let your opinions and ideals be shaped by the Word of God!

We need to stop jumping on this or that bandwagon when we've never before had an opinion on said bandwagon subject.  God gave us a brain to use not to just let it take up space between our ears.  Maybe I was blinded to 'grown-up' life when I was a child but I don't remember there being so much hatred and disrespect and disregard for others.  Honestly, to me, it seems that people today are purposely out for the blood of others!  

Everyone always seems to be looking for ways to hurt someone else!  Maybe I'm looking through rose-colored glasses which distorts my view of the times.  I'd rather think I'm looking through the-crimson-blood-of-Jesus-colored glasses...trying to see the GOOD in others.  I really believe that everyone of us has some good in us.  We've just squashed it down so long that the bad is all that comes out of us. 

It's as if we live in a ME world.  Everything is always about ME.  What can YOU do FOR ME?  How can YOU make ME feel good?  When we're all about SELF, we leave no room for anyone else in our life.  There seems to be no joy in anyone's life anymore.  I can tell you's simply, really.  In order to have genuine JOY, we need to live our life like this:
J = Jesus
O = Others
Y = Yourself

If we would learn to put Jesus first in our life...ALL THE TIME...and others above ourselves, we would find joy, true, genuine joy!  And once we find that joy, we won't be so quick to jump to the negative!

Won't you give it a try.  Practice J-O-Y!  I think you'll find that there's something good in all of us!

Have a blessed day,