I really think that husbands tune out their wives as soon as their wives begin to nag. Seriously. It's like they don't even hear us. We probably sound like Charlie Brown's mom, "wah, wah, wah, wah." It's so irritating, right?
Irritating is correct. But perhaps it is us, the nagging wife, who is irritating?
A quarrelsome wife is as annoying
as a constant dripping on a rainyday.
Proverbs 27:15 NLT
The Bible straight up tells us we are annoying. Annoying! Way to be blunt.
I don't know about you, but I really don't want my husband to find me annoying. Another verse says a quarrelsome wife sends her husband to the corner of the roof with her nagging. I don't want to send my husband to the corner of the roof either.
As wives, we tend to nag our husbands about a lot of things. Did you take out the trash, did you gas up the car, when are you doing to mow the grass, when are you going to finish cleaning the basement, when are you going to call your mother, and on and on and on. Why do we do this? Okay, so our husbands may not do the things he is supposed to or says he will right away. That doesn't mean we need to continually bug them about it.
Instead of nagging, let's try this. First, pray that your husband will remember to do the things he has said he is going to do. Ask God to give him a desire to accomplish the tasks and that he will feel a great satisfaction for doing so. Next, ask your husband how you can help him. Maybe the task seems overwhelming or too time consuming for him. Offer to be of help. Last, show your husband appreciation when he does something. Thank him for everything he does, no matter how big or how small. Our men thrive on pleasing us. The more we show our true appreciation, the more they are going to want to do things to be appreciated.
Ladies, let's stop being the drip. Before you 'remind' your husband about something, ask yourself if this will make you a drip in his mind.