Marriage {Sunday} Monday - Love Dare 38

Tomorrow we have a very special Christmas post for you, so this week's Marriage Monday is coming to you on Sunday!  God bless sisters.

Delight yourself in the Lord; 

and He will give you the desires of your heart. 

Psalm 37:4

Do you ever wonder what your husband really wants?  What his dreams and desires are?  Maybe your husband shares his heart often and you know exactly how to please him, whether it is a gift giving occasion or just everyday pleasing him.  Or maybe your husband is not vocal about what he wants and you are left wondering.  

Does your husband express his desires so often that you have made a habit of saying no to him before really thinking about it?  What if instead of dismissing the thought, you did your best to honor it?  What might happen if the one thing he said you'd never do for him become the next thing you did?  There was one gift that my husband always wanted.  Something that he talked about often.  I always was quick to say no and ignore his desires.  So that day when he received this gift for Father's Day, he was beyond thrilled and shocked that I really did listen to him and care about his wants.

Love sometimes needs to be extravagant.  To go all out.  It sometimes needs to set aside the technicalities and just bless because it wants to.  Maybe your husband wants something that is financially a burden for your family.  Is this something you can start saving for?  In our home we live on a tight budget, like many people.  When a gift giving occasion comes up I do not expect anything from my husband because I know our finances.  But he always surprises me.  Just recently he told me that he plans ahead.  He decides what he is going to get me by listening to what I want (and yes, he always gets something I really want!), he figures out how much it is and how much time he has, then he saves a few dollars each week.  Saving up for a gift is a good way to not 'break the bank.'

Not all gifts cost money.  What if your husband's desire is to simply have some quiet time, you could encourage him to go fishing or you could take the kids to the park on Saturday morning so he can sleep in.  Does he desire some 'guy time' with his friends?  Encourage him to have a guy's night and do not get upset with him for leaving.  Does he dislike coming home from work and the house being chaotic with the kids running and screaming?  Try starting a new routine where right before daddy comes home the kids settle in for some quiet reading in their bedrooms.  

Listen when your husband speaks.  Hear his words and hear his heart.  Meditate on those words and how you can bless him with the desires of his heart.

Today's Love Dare:

Ask yourself what your husband would want if it was obtainable   Commit this to prayer, and start mapping out a plan for meeting some (if not all) of their desires, to whatever level you possibly can.

Sweet Blessings~