Today's dare is one of the hardest dares in the book. It is one of the hardest things we can do in life. But to have a solid marriage, a good marriage, you must have this, forgiveness. Forgiveness has to happen or a successful marriage won't.
We hold on to unforgiveness for many reasons. We don't think the other person deserves our forgiveness, we want to punish the other person by not forgiving, or we want to hold on to them and keep them in that prison of guilt. But the truth is, we we hold on to unforgiveness, we are the ones who are hurting the most. We are the ones locked in that prison.
Yes, sister, I know your husband has hurt you. I understand your broken heart. He cheated, he lied, he said hurtful things to you, he isn't the father you'd thought he'd be, he won't go to work and support the family, he won't give up that addiction, or he did give up an addiction but you can't look past it. By not forgiving him of these things you are not letting your marriage blossom.
When you forgive another person you're not turning them loose. You're just turning them over to God, who can be counted on to deal with them His way. You're saving yourself the trouble of scripting any more arguments or trying to prevail in this situation. It's not about winning and losing anymore, It's about freedom. It's about letting go.
Before we move on to today's dare, I want to share a song with you. This is Matthew West's new song, Forgiveness. He wrote it based off a true story of a woman who forgave the drunk driver that killed her child. That is some powerful forgiveness right there. How did she do it? With God. How did she feel after? Free. Listen to the words of the song then scroll down for today's dare.
Did you catch that line in the song? "The prisoner it really frees is YOU." Forgive and be free. No matter what your husband has done. Even when he hasn't asked your forgiveness. Just forgive. Let it go and let God have the situation.
Whatever you haven't forgiven in your mate, forgive it today. Let it go. Just as we ask Jesus to "forgive us our debts" each day,w e must ask him to help is "forgive our debtors" each day as well. Unforgiveness has been keeping you and your spouse in prison too long. Say from your heart, "I choose to forgive."