As Christians, love is the basis of our whole identity. Our spiritual rebirth came about because "God so loved the world, that He gave His only begotten Son, that whoever believes in Him shall not perish but have eternal life (John 3:16).
How we love is our witness to this world. How we express love is how we show Christ to those who have not seen Him or believe in Him. As we continue on in our Christian walk, our love is should to continue to grow. We are loved so that we can share love.
So many times in life, we let love be a feeling. Oh he brought me roses, I love him so much! He woke up in the night with the baby so I could sleep, I love him so much! He hasn't picked up his shoes all week, I hate him! He never takes out the trash without me reminding him, I hate him! Love is treated as a feeling.
But really, love is a choice. You may or may not do something romantic, but I choose to love you no matter. You may or may not say all the right things, but I choose to love you anyway. Love is a choice. A choice we must make continually.
Whether or not our husband sweeps us off our feet, we should choose love. Whether or not our marriage is good, we should choose love.
Love is a choice not a feeling. It is an initiated action, not a knee-jerk reaction. Choose today to be committed to love even if your spouse has lost most of their interest in receiving it. Say to him today in words simiar to these, "I love you. Period. I choose to love you even if you don't love me in return."