Monday, April 30, 2012

Marriage Monday - Love Dare 12

Do not merely look out for your own personal interests, but also for the interests of others.  Philippians 2:4

If I were to ask you right now what you and your husband most often disagree about, could you quickly answer?  Most likely yes.  You could probably come up with a long list of things you disagree about within minutes.  We all have a human nature to want to be right.  To want to have the last word.

I remember one time my husband and I were driving down the road and talking about the construction they were doing.  Now ladies, my husband is a great guy, but his memory is not always the sharpest.  {smiles}  He was saying that before the construction the road looked one way but I knew he was wrong.  And I am not talking I knew in the sense of I had to be right, this time I really was right.  I promise!  {smiles again}  But as we argued about this thing that made no difference at all, God nudged me to just let it go.  I was getting upset over something that did not matter.  God told me it was okay to let him "win" this.

Sometimes in marriage, even in other relationships, we need to just pick our battles.  Stop and think.  Is this something that truly matters?  If I press on just to win this, at what cost am I going win?

All it takes for your present arguments to continue is for both of you to stay entrenched and unbending.  But the very moment one of you says, "I'm willing to go your way on this one," the argument will be over.  And thought the follow through may cost you some pride and discomfort, you have made a loving, lasting investment in your marriage.

Today's Dare: 
Demonstrate love by willingly choosing to give in to an area of disagreement between you and your husband.  Tell him you are putting his preference first.

Sweet Blessings~


  1. Thank you for this reminder and for the ministry that you and your co-leaders do at Women to Women. You are all appreciated more than you could imagine!

  2. Yes, I know these little arguments well. Thanks for this encouragement for this next time it happens :)


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