"Be devoted to one another in brotherly love; give preference to one another in honor." Romans 12:10
If there were ever a word that basically means the opposite of love it is selfishness. By human nature we are selfish creatures. We want things our way. When we are hungry we want to eat now and we want what it is we are craving. When we are cold, we want the furnace up now. We tend to always think about our own desires. Love is the complete opposite of selfishness. When we truly love someone, we think about their needs, their likes and dislikes, their hopes and dreams. We take them into consideration before making any decisions. Love is not selfish.
Why do we have such low standards for our self, but such high standards for our husband? Simple. We are selfish. If we mess up, it's okay. We are human, we are learning, we are allowed to make mistakes sometimes. If our husband makes a mistake, our whole world falls apart. How dare he mess up!? How dare he forget to take the trash out before leaving for work because he was so tired!? But it's okay that we forgot to pick up his dry cleaning because we were so busy. We shouldn't hold our husband to such high standards. We should allow them room to mess up. We all make mistakes sometimes.
Love is never satisfied except at the welfare of others. You cannot act out of real love and selfishness at the same time. Sometimes real love means saying no to what we want and yes to what our husband wants. It may mean cooking a home cooked meal for him when we would much rather go out to a nice restaurant. It could mean sleeping in a pretty nightgown when we would be more comfortable in warm flannel jammies. It might mean watching football when you would rather watch a sappy love story. Real love means compromise and sometimes not getting our own way.
Ask yourself these questions:
Do I really want what is best for my husband?
Do I want him to feel loved by me?
Does he believe I have his best interests at heart?
Does he see me as looking out for myself first?
Whatever you put your time, energy and money in to will become more important to you. It is hard to care for something you are not invested in. Along with restraining from negative comments, buy your spouse something that says, "I was thinking of you.
It does not have to be something big. It does not have to be something extravagant. Just something to show you were thinking of your husband. I knew this dare would be today, so Saturday while I was shopping, I bought the materials for my husband to change the oil in his truck. It is something he keeps saying he needs to get and it shows that I was thinking of him and remembered what he needed. Today buy your husband something to say I love you. Comment below or go over to our Facebook page and write on our wall telling us what you bought your husband for today's dare.
|The Love Dare|
By Stephen Kendrick & Alex Kendrick / B & H Publishing Group