Monday, May 9, 2011

Pick Your Battles


We all like to be right.  Some of us like to be right even when we know we are wrong.  Many of us have a hard time admitting when we are wrong.  Are you one of these people?  Maybe your husband is.

Well my husband and I both like to be right.  Him more so than me. (smiles)  There are times when I think I am right.  But then there are times I know I am right.  For example, there is a road in our town that they have been doing construction on.  One day recently we were driving on this road and I asked my hubby if he knew what they were doing.  He said they were making it a four lane road (two lanes going each direction).  I told him that couldn't be it because it was already a four lane road before the construction.  It was only two lane while they worked on the other side.  He thought, well he thought he knew, he was right.  I knew I was right.  I drive on this road often.  If you looked closely you could see where old lines were, the old stop lights and look up the road a bit and see the full four lanes.  So I knew that this time I was right.  There was no question.  We were both starting to get upset when God nudged my heart.

Why did this matter?  We were both starting to get upset over how many lanes were on a road!  It was not important.  It was really quite silly.  That is when I decided to say, okay.  Okay, if you say there were only two lanes, that is fine.
I am learning that there are some things just not worth arguing over.  Who is right?  Who is wrong?  On bigger, important issues, yes we need to resolve them.  But today we are talking about the little things.

Sisters, if you are right, whether you know beyond a shadow of a doubt that you are right or you just think you are right, stop and ask yourself.  Does it really matter?  Is it worth fighting over?  Is it going to change anything?  If they answer to these is no, let it go
Oh and on those occasions when our men admit they were wrong, be gracious about it.  Do not say "I told you so" or rub it in.  And when you know you are wrong, humble yourself and admit it.

Let's learn to pick our battles and let the little things go.

Sweet Blessings~


  1. I learned a long time ago to 'pick my battles' with my hubby. One very silly thing that we used to battle do many the tube of toothpaste. I like it squeezed from the bottom. Jim, on the other hand, squeezes it right there at the top. I would just come unglued when I would go to use the tube after him. I don't exactly know when it happened, but it did...I realized, it doesn't make a bit of difference. If he uses it before me, I'll just 'fix' it before I squeeze it from the bottom. Seriously, what difference does it's a tube of toothpaste, it's not a life changing thing! I totally agree with you...pick your battles...the little things in life only serve to 'chafe' us when we aren't focusing on God and the things that really matter!

    Thank you for this reminder!

  2. I agree... I do need to remember to pick my battles. Although there are fewer things I battle with ... there are a few that matter- why I really dont know but I am glad I am not in control of my life or marriage. I am comfortable being the helper and support person. We discuss things but the final decision is my hubby's. And he has never done anything to hurt me yet. But this is a good reminder about what to "battle with him over." I have learned that there are things that push his buttons and when at all possible don't go there. its not worth it in the long run.
    Thanks for this.

  3. This is yet another thing God is dealing with me about. :) I am always right (smiles) and I have a really hard time admitting when I'm wrong. But God is showing me that most of the things I am right about (again smiles) are not worth getting upset over. I just need to let it go and with God's help, I am doing just that. Great post!

  4. I'm learning this right now. It's sooo hard to pick my battles when I KNOW I'm right even when I'm wrong but I'm working on it thank you for this great post!

  5. I can honestly say that most things are not worth fighting over. I am blessed to have a godly hubby. Unless the issue is something that is against the Word or Christ, then no arguing goes on around here. We are a pretty boring couple :-)

  6. Marriage takes so much humility, doesn't it? So many times we lose some of what's really important, because we dont' want to let go of what isn't important.


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