Monday, April 25, 2011
The Spiritual Head
Your husband is the spiritual leader in your home.
Not he should be, but he is.
So many of us women have a hard time with this one. For many, it is the fact that their husband does not step up and assume that role as spiritual leader. We greatly desire our husband to lead in family prayer time and devotions, but he just doesn't seem the least bit interested. For others, their husbands may try to be the spiritual leader, but we don't think he is doing a good enough job of it. And yet for some, the husband has not yet found his way to Christ.
We look at our husbands and judge that they don't spend time with God as much as we do. We think they are not reading their Bible enough. Maybe they are not as active in the church as we think they should be. Their prayers are not long enough or passionate enough. We judge that they are just not doing a good enough job of being the spiritual leader. I have heard women say their husband just does not do it, so they are the spiritual leader. The truth is, the husband is still the spiritual head, whether we like the way he leads or not.
Ephesians 5:23 says, "For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, His body, of which He is the Savior."
The Bible tells us the husband is the head. God created it that way. We must show our husbands respect in this area. If we are constantly nagging him, or going over his head in this area, he could become hurt, angry, bitter and even give up.
The most important thing we need to do is pray. Pray that God would guide our husbands and give them wisdom and authority in becoming the spiritual head. Then step back and let God lead him.
If your husband is not leading family prayer time, try starting small. Ask him to say the prayer at dinner. If he does not want to do this, do not push. Continue to pray for him daily, then in a month or so, ask him again. Once he has done this for awhile and feels more comfortable praying with the family, ask him to say the bedtime prayers. When you are not feeling well, ask your husband to say a prayer for you. If you have a sick child or your child is having a problem, say to them, "Let's go ask Daddy to pray for you." Never criticize your husband's prayers!
Maybe your husband is not leading devotions. You can ask him to read one scripture verse before dinner or before bedtime. Again, if he resists, do not push, but continue to pray for him.
Leading may be something new to your husband. Especially if he is new in his faith. You need to hold him in prayer and step back and give him room to lead. It may take time, but he will get to it. Remember that God created him for this role.